You and I do not agree with what 'life' actually is, so that is our first disconnect. I do not believe a blastocyst, or zygote, are life in any meaningful way, as neither can think, nor feel, nor are they fully formed in any respect. I have read from physicians that 40-60% of fertilized eggs fail to continue and are shed in the first month or so of what would be a pregnancy. Do you grieve those? I don't. It's nature, and not all pregnancies are meant to continue.

Early term abortion is the same for me. I think a woman needs to be prepared to be pregnant and to be a parent, and if for some reason she is not, I am okay with a legal, safe abortion if that is her choice. Later in the pregnancy, it becomes more morally questionable, at least for me, and after a certain level of development, abortions should only be performed for health reasons of the mother or fetus.

You speak of right or wrong choices, but some choices are neither 100%. Many of life choices are somewhere in between, and for that we have some regrets as to the outcome. Moral ambiguity is normal in difficult situations. One of my friends needed to take her infant off life support or leave her in a vegetative state in the hospital to exist with almost no brain capabilities. Where's the fairness in a choice like that? Regret either way is something humans deal with.