I agree with your assesrtions. Those parents who get a divorce are often raked through the coals because it fits the narrative of some conservatives that divorce is wrong and damaging to children. However, the reality is that it much depends on whether the couple, whom are parents, are in a healthy relationship or at least willing to work on their deficits, individually and as a couple. Those parents who are not willing to work on themselves can be destructive to their children, whether still married or divorced. There is no easy answer as to what situation is truly harmful to children, married or divorced.