Congratulations, you! I dealt with similar issues for years with my FIL. He was a selfish, nasty, racist person who sucked the air out of the room. My Ex was too passive to ever stand up to him and just agreed with whatever the man said.

Your thoughts and writing are so clear and honest. I appreciate how you explain who he is and reflect on who his son has become as well. It seems like no matter what you FIL is, you learned to have a voice that won't be silenced.