Colleen, where were you 30 years ago when my ex proposed 100 times in one evening because I expressed reluctance to get married and still wanted to date? LOL, I reluctantly agreed and reluctantly went into the marriage without considering why I didn't want to get married. I forgot my first wedding anniversary, and surely there were reasons for that. Why he wanted to marry a woman who wasn't sure about getting married still baffles me. PS - in ended in an affair and a divorce. I prompted the divorce, but he had the affair. About 5 minutes later, he remarried.